Remembering your lost loved one’s anniversary can be a daunting day. This anniversary is typically a day of sadness and remembrance, but there are many ways that you can use this time to honor and pay respects to your loved one. Here are a few beautiful ways to keep your loved one alive in your mind and memory on this special day.
Preparing a child for a funeral service requires patience and strength, both for yourself and your little one. This is one of the most difficult moments in caretaking for children, but it must be done. Although the task of preparing children for a funeral service is daunting, there are ways to help ease you into approaching this difficult matter.
Attending the service of a loved one is never a simple feat. These are some of the most difficult days. However, there is a glimmer of hope in the fact that you can find unique ways to honor your loved one. The fact that you can initiate a gesture that is unlike the practices of regular funerals may give you comfort during this difficult time. It also serves as a reminder of what made your loved one so special. Here’s what you can do!
Before people pass away, many hope to leave a legacy behind. This is a normal wish, as everyone has one life to live and wants to be remembered for something after they pass. It’s never too early to begin creating your legacy, and there are many ways to make sure your legacy lives on long after you’re gone. The following five ideas will help you brainstorm how you want to leave the legacy of your incredible life behind.
Discussing the topic of death with children can be difficult. Many children may not understand the concept of death or how to cope with it at such a young age. Everyone deals with death in different ways, including children, but there are a few ways to make this difficult discussion a bit lighter on both the giver and the receiver of the conversation.
Each year on November 11th, we come together as a nation to honor our veterans for their service, patriotism, bravery, and sacrifice for our country. Stuhr Funeral Home is proud to assist families in giving their late veterans honorable funerals and burials, including military honors and funeral benefits. Veterans have done so much for our country, and it is our duty at Stuhr Funeral Home to honor their lives.
“Stuhr Funeral Home has great compassion for families and individuals in mourning over the death of a loved one. One way we can offer help is by guiding survivors in their responses to the bereaved,” says Funeral Director Brian Calhoun. Most people, no matter how uncomfortable they are when expressing their feelings, can convey concern for a family member, friend, coworker, or acquaintance who has lost a loved one.
They’ve given us their unconditional love and loyalty, smothered us with kisses, comforted us, kept watch over our homes, made us laugh, motivated us to stay active and brought out our playful side. They are our pets and members of our families. We love them and after they’re gone, we love them still.
Despite what we might wish, death doesn’t always give notice before it arrives, which can make it even more difficult for loved ones left behind. “When a sudden death occurs, like with an accident or disease like COVID-19, it can compound our grief. We haven’t had time to prepare or process our feelings in advance,” says Brian Calhoun, Funeral Director at Stuhr Funeral Home.
Charleston is a city known for its hospitality, which is probably why there are so many amazing venues in the area to celebrate all of life’s milestones – including the last one. While memorial services are traditionally held in a funeral home or church, there’s no “right” place to honor your loved one. Non-traditional venues, like waterfront parks or historic homes, can be beautiful places to remember someone’s life and to say goodbye.
Every November 11, Americans gather to honor all veterans of war for their patriotism, love of their country, and willingness to serve and sacrifice. In the last several years, to celebrate Veterans’ Day, J. Henry Stuhr Funeral Home has invited local fifth-graders to visit the Mt. Pleasant Memorial Gardens cemetery to place flags on veterans’ graves.
Grief is an important process in the wake of a loved one’s death and should not be rushed or judged. Each person grieves their own way. Dealing with the dearly departed’s possessions may be an element of that process. Stuhr Funeral Home, with locations throughout the Charleston area, knows that this can be a bittersweet experience that many people dread. They offer these tips to make the process as efficient and productive as possible.
After friends, well-wishers and other family have returned home, it’s time for you and yours to attempt to move forward. The person you loved and lost would want you to be happy and enjoy life. So you begin to reclaim normalcy, occupying your mind with the activities of daily living, like cleaning the house, washing and drying clothes, and putting things away. One thing you might not be up for is cooking. Maybe your lost one was the chef of the family, and you have to quickly figure out how to feed your house of hungry folks.
Obituaries are often written in haste and under duress, in the immediate aftermath of a loved one’s death. As a result, they may fail to capture the beautiful essence of the unique individual being eulogized. You can do better for your dearly departed, even if you’re not a writer, by following a few simple steps.
The grieving process for loved ones lost is not linear; we don’t grieve a little less every single day. Instead, the pain fades slowly over time with spikes of sadness often triggered by places, dates and events. The holidays are one time of year when our sense of loss may well up again, as we recall good times with those we have lost.
Home to Joint Base Charleston and formerly the Charleston Naval Base, Charleston has a deep-rooted military history. Today, an estimated 72,200 military veterans are living in the tri-county area.
These aren’t just veterans, but they are grandparents, husbands and wives, moms and dads, aunts and uncles, sons and daughters, and friends. And once they’ve passed, their life and service deserve to be honored.
Funerals in the South have traditionally been a gathering, a sad one, but a time for relatives and friends to come together and share memories. After the eulogy, the tears, and the lowering of the casket comes solace in the form of fried chicken, green bean casseroles and red velvet cake. Food for a family at this time is a gift, a helping hand when it comes to feeding all those who have come to mourn, and a reaffirmation of life as we gather together to tell stories.
A picture is worth a thousand words. Nowhere is that more relevant than at a funeral, where words often fail us, or go unheard through the fog of grief. Memory boards and memory tables have become popular at a variety of mourning gatherings – whether wake, funeral or life celebration – because they offer a simple way to touch memories and tell stories.
For many Americans, Memorial Day marks the unofficial start of summer, a time for barbecues with family and friends, and shopping at big sales.
But Memorial Day is so much more than that. It is a day to remember the one million Americans who gave what Abraham Lincoln called “the last full measure of their devotion” to the cause of freedom. It is a day of reverence, to stop our normal activities to thank, appreciate and recognize the ultimate sacrifice made by others so that we might enjoy the privileges of citizenship in this nation.
From time to time we all consider the final step in our human experience, either by purchasing life insurance, writing a will or arranging for a burial plot. No one wants to be a burden on those we leave behind. But what about taking the next step, and considering how we want to be remembered? Benjamin Franklin did just that by writing his own epitaph, likening his body to an … Read More
Army Sgt. Brian Calhoun is a photojournalist with the South Carolina National Guard. He’s also the director of information technology and licensed funeral director with Stuhr Funeral Home in Charleston. Both these roles given Calhoun a unique perspective when it comes to helping families plan a military funeral. “I am very fortunate to work for a company that has embraced my desire to serve my country,” Calhoun says. “They have … Read More
Ever had a hard day at the office only to come home to your dog who’s beyond excited to see you walk through the front door? Your phone may be buzzing with text messages from colleagues, the kids may be asking “What’s for dinner?” and the laundry basket may be overflowing, but all that matters is a look and sloppy kiss from your best four-legged friend.
Sponsored by: Stuhr Funeral Home As with any important occasion, one of the big questions is: What to wear? People often wonder the same thing when it comes to funerals or memorial services. And while it may be a somber occasion, you still want to look your best to honor the life of the person who has passed. Here are a few current trends to ensure you are both respectful … Read More
The holiday is a time of gathering with friends and family. It’s a joyous season marked by laughter, good spirits and time-honored traditions. But for those missing a spouse, parent, child or loved one, the holiday season can be challenging. Whether the loss is recent or several years old, this time of year is a stark reminder of the people who are missing from the dinner table or whose stocking … Read More
Those who have served in the U.S. military are celebrated in life as heroes protecting freedom and democracy. In death, their service is also honored with a military funeral and can include in burial in a national cemetery. Family members may not realize all the options and services available as they plan a service for their loved one. Pre-planning is always a good idea, so decisions can be made with … Read More
There’s never an easy way to break the news about the loss of a loved one, a family friend or even a beloved pet. When it’s time to talk to kids about death, the conversation can be even more challenging. But death is unavoidable, so having an honest and age-appropriate conversation with your child about loss is important. It may be tempting to gloss over what’s happened, especially with smaller … Read More
Sponsored by: Stuhr Funeral Home In today’s world, we live so much of our lives on social media that it only makes sense that death would find its way into our Facebook, Twitter and Instagram feeds. But this is still relatively new territory, so it can difficult to navigate the etiquette of what to do and say about death on social media. When it comes to responding to a death … Read More
Sponsored by: Stuhr Funeral Home There’s something about the summer that calls for a little cleaning and organizing. We have kids’ artwork and photos from the school year, family documents and a disheveled filing cabinet filled with “important papers” – but in an emergency situation, would anyone else be able to figure out your filing system? Whether it’s a hurricane, illness or a death, there are key documents that need … Read More
Sponsored by: Stuhr Funeral HomeIf you spend any time at all on Facebook, you’ll inevitably see a friend post about the passing of a beloved pet. Friends chime in with their condolences and their own stories of dealing with the death of a cat, dog, horse or even a lovable lizard. Pets are such a part of the family – they nap on the couch and sleep on the bed. … Read More
After losing a spouse, child or close family member, it’s hard not to just crawl into bed and ignore the chiming doorbell or ringing phone. Eating a meal or taking a shower can be incredibly challenging, so the idea of carrying on a conversation with others seems like a monumental task.And while some alone time to deal with the initial emotion and shock is part of the grieving process, getting … Read More